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The 12 Core Dynamics of Common Problems

Have you ever wondered if it was even possible to eliminate fears, insecurities, and bad habits… permanently?

Have you ever asked yourself questions like these?

  • What's holding me back from having what I really want in my life?
  • Why do I long to feel loved and never really do?
  • Why is it that when I accomplish a goal it doesn't bring me the sense of fulfillment that I thought it would?
  • Why do I sometimes get an inner intuitive sense about something and then find that I don't act on it and then I regret it later?
  • Why do I get overwhelmed by feelings so easily?
  • Why am I so concerned with memories from the past or with fantasies about the future?
  • Why am I sometimes judgmental of others and myself?
  • Why is it so hard for me to stay present when my partner is upset?
  • Why do I take things so personally?
  • What keeps me from starting or completing the truly important projects that would really make a difference in my life?

    If you have ever had these kinds of questions come up for you then you might really be interested in the answer to the next question which is -

    What's really going on?

    Everyone wants more out of life. But so often we can feel held back, and can't really seem to figure it out! It can be frustrating and discouraging. We want to make progress in our business, our career, our relationships, but it is as if some invisible resistance just seems to be keeping us from having the life we really want.

    Even though it seems like it is often our outer circumstances that are holding us back or that life just doesn't seem to be bringing us the fulfillment of our desires, what's really going on is that we are sabotaging ourselves without realizing that we are doing that.

    Why do we do that?

    It's simple really. You've probably heard of the Law of Attraction. It basically says that what you think about is what you get. The problem is that for most people what they think about is so influenced by their conditioning that the main thoughts that get their attention are the ones about what's not working in their life.

    The Law of Attaction asserts that the Laws of Nature cause all of our thoughts to come into existence.

    The problem is managing your thoughts. Here's why -

    When you have a thought or desire, it is usually immediately followed by a thought that is in conflict with it, such as:

    I want a new car... but I can't afford it.

    I want a new romantic partner... but the kind of person I want doesn't really exist so what's the use even looking for them.

    I'm going to write a book... but I have to do the laundry and the take the dog to the groomer and answer my email first...

    Etc. etc. etc.

    You get the idea.

    Why does this happen?

    The real basis of our inner conflicting thoughts can be found in our very early childhood conditioning. That's not anything new. But what is new is that until now, the ways that we are that are based on our conditioning have seemed difficult if not impossible to change. It is as if that is just the way we are.

    Imagine for a moment what it might be like if you could stop having those self-sabatoging thoughts that undermine your best intentions. What if the only messages that you were giving to the universal Law of Attraction were the thoughts of what you really did want to have happen instead of unintentionally sending the mixed messages that are caused by your conditioning?

    What would happen if you could completely stop having conflicting thoughts?

    If you were somehow magically able to stop having conflicting thoughts, you would naturally and spontaneously begin to:

  • Have your desires be fulfilled effortlessly in unexpected, magical ways
  • Feel completely aligned with nature and the universe
  • Start to trust and act on your intuition much more consistently
  • Be free of the sense of limitations of the influence of the past
  • Be free of worries and concerns about the future
  • Be totally present, living in the moment, in the Now
  • Be non-judgmental about yourself and others
  • Not get lost to the grip of emotion, fear, anger, depression
  • Have the capacity to feel anything and everything
  • Be completely self-sufficient and independent
  • Have a depth of self-esteem and self-worth that makes them non-issues
  • Live in a state of unconditional love for yourself, others and all of life
  • Live in tune with the flow of nature, "in the zone" all the time
  • Maintain a deep inner sense of peace and equanimity all the time
  • Be liberated to live the fullest possible expression of your unique talents and qualities
  • Be completely clear about your purpose in life and respond spontaneously to the needs of each moment with the fullness of your being

    Wow! Is it really possible to have a life like that?

    Of course it hardly seems possible but this is because you've been living your life from inside of your conditioning of perpetually sabatoging yourself with conflicting thoughts. And it is so familar to you and you also observe it as being how most everyone you know functions that it is natural that it would seem impossible to have a life like that.

    But it is possible!

    A new breakthrough as been developed that now makes it possible to quickly root out and change our conditioning of having self-sabatoging thoughts. There are lots of things that don't work, that's for sure. You've already probably tried a lot of them. Reading most self-help books may inspire you but they don't help you to actually change your habitual self-sabatoging thoughts. Affirmations don't work because that's like trying to write a document on a computer that has viruses on it that keep corrupting your files no matter how many times you try to write them. The files you are trying to write are your intentions and desires and the viruses that keep sabatoging them are the thoughts generated by your conditioning.

    What does work then?

    What does work is to do something that is very much like running anti-virus software on YOURSELF! It is the combination of a powerful model called The 12 Core Dynamics of Common Problems™, a technological device called The WaveMaker™ and a new set of techniques called The Five Pure Awareness Techniques. All of these tools have been developed by Tom Stone over years of in-depth specialized research inquiring into the nature of what is really going on underneath people's problems and what are the best solutions that really resolve these underlying causes permanently. These insights and techniques are taught during this ongoing group coaching series.

    Using The Core Dynamics Model allows you to quickly cut through to the real basis of your inner conflicting thoughts. The method is based on a set of penetraing new insights into the nature of human conditioning and how this conditioning effects and limits us, and more importantly how to shift the energy patterns that hold our conditioning in place.

    Overview of the Core Dynamics

    1 - Trying To Force Outcomes
    The Conditioning of Forcing

    2 - Excluding Other Perspectives
    The Conditioning of Attachment and Ego

    3 - Manufacturing Interpretations
    The Conditioning of Misinterpretation

    4 - Over-Reacting to Circumstances
    The Conditioning of Reactivity

    5 - Looking For Yourself Where You're Not
    The Conditioning of Longing

    6 - Mistaking Need for Love
    The Conditioning of Dependence

    7 - Resisting Change
    The Conditioning of Control

    8 - Limiting Self-Expression
    The Conditioning of Holding Back

    9 - Resisting Feeling Things Fully
    The Conditioning of Avoiding Emotional Overwhelm

    10 - Ignoring Your Intuition
    The Conditioning of Doubt

    11 - Being Judgmental
    The Conditioning of Separateness

    12 - Avoiding the Present
    The Conditioning of Distractions

    View the Core Dynamics Venn Diagrams that show the Core Dynamics and the Absence Of the Core Dynamics.

    View and print the From Pain to Gain Assessment to see where the Core Dynamics Model could improve your life.

    Listen to Tom Stone describe the Core Dynamics

    You can also listen to Tom Stone talk about and demonstrate the Core Dynamics Model and some of the Pure Awareness Techniques. This recording was made in preparation for his Core Dynamics Live Seminar which was held in New York on October 6th and 7th, 2007.

    Intro Call

    The Core Dynamics Course

    The Core Dynamics course is 18 hours of video training led by Tom Stone. During this training you will debug all of your Core Dynamics by watching the video and using the WaveMaker at the appropriate points during the video. Upon completion of the video training you will begin your WaveMaker Coaching sessions with your OptimaLife Coach which will guarantee you are fully resonant with all of the proper intentions by the completion of the course (coaching session charges are additional). Email me if you'd like to see a list of the intentions covered in this course.

    Course Fee (video only): $149 Coaching session charges to complete resonance process are additional and per session price is determined based on package chosen.

    Upon completion of the video training, participants must sign up for at least 3 months of ongoing coaching. This is to ensure that you successfully are "living into" the new intentions and ways of being.

    Please email or call me if you have questions or are interested in taking this course.




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