How to Make Changes In Your Life, the Easiest Way I Know

I get asked a lot, “What does a life coach actually do? How do you make a difference for people?” It’s a good question, and I always enjoy answering it. I have several ways I could describe it, but one of my favorites goes something like this…

I believe a coach’s job is primarily to facilitate change for people. Change involves moving from some Point A to some Point B. The Point A position could be one of strong dissatisfaction (“I really need a new job/relationship/health situation/financial situation/etc.”) or one of mild dissatisfaction (“I’d really like to get to a little higher level in X.”) . If you’re interested in getting to a new Point B in some specific area of your life, then obviously there is something about the current Point A that is not ideal or fully wanted, and therefore there is a feeling of some degree of dissatisfaction and a desire for something better.

My job is to help you successfully get from your Point A to your Point B. While we all can usually reach most of our Point B’s in life just fine on our own, in some situations, without some type of structure or facilitation, the Point B will never be reached. These situations can fall into the “unfulfilled dreams” category or just be things we always wanted to do but never got done in life. Unattained Point B’s can cause feelings of mild annoyance to feelings of total failure in life depending on how big and important the Point B is to you. These are the situations when a coach can make a huge difference in the outcome and in the actual course of your life path.

My job is to help make the journey between all of your Point A’s and Point B’s faster and more comfortable. What makes this possible is the process of getting very clear on what your Point B looks like and then removing all of inner barriers and blocks that can create resistance to you easily reaching your Point B. Most of these blocks are habitual ways of thinking, speaking, feeling and action and many are completely unknown to the you (because by definition, habits are unconscious most of the time). I have the tools and the training that enable me to find and remove these blocks. This is the skill that sets me apart and I think it is a critical step in the change process.

When you try to change without first removing the blocks and barriers, it is much tougher sledding, and this is why most people give up. That resistance (which can feel like a headwind, invisible force field, or metaphorically like walking through fire) is the reason for the negative association we have with change. The blocks and barriers are what make change uncomfortable because when you move in a new direction you are pushing against internal stuff that is going in the old direction.

When the blocks and barriers are deactivated first, then we can have much greater freedom and ease to move in the new direction. I don’t have to push my clients very hard, 1) because pushing clients takes a lot of the fun out of the process for both of us, and 2) pushing is just not necessary when the obstacles have been removed.

Finally, we need to do a few things to keep you moving in the right direction. This involves training you how to not get in your own way. Unfortunately, getting in the way of what you’re trying to attract or manifest is something that most people are extremely good at. It can really mess up the process of you being able to reach your desired outcome. So, there are some new understandings and skills that you can implement, which become habitual and automatic eventually. Turning these new skills into habits takes time and practice, and it is also my job during this period to help you integrate these new skills properly so you can begin getting great results with them on your own.

I hope you’ve now got a better understanding of what I do as a life coach. If you have any Point B’s that you’d like to reach faster, please contact me for an “Accelerate Your Success” intro session. I’d love to give you a firsthand experience of how this all works and what impact it could have for you.

I have some new pricing options that are extremely affordable and cost-effective. There has never been a better time to make the changes you’d like to make in your life!

Written by Paul Rarick with www.optimalifecoach.com. Distribution of this article is authorized provided author's name and contact information are included.

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